A CRUEL student accused of driving her boyfriend to suicide with thousands of abusive texts has been charged with manslaughter.

Inyoung You, 21, psychologically and physically attacked Alexander Urtula during their 18-month relationship, authorities say.

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Suffolk County District Attorney

Inyoung You, right, allegedly told tormented boyfriend Alexander Urtula the world would be better off without him[/caption]

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Alexander Urtula, 22, jumped to his death on the day of his graduation from Boston College[/caption]

She reportedly told the Boston College student the “world would be better without him” before he jumped to his death on the day of his graduation in May.

Suffolk County District Attorney Rachael Rollins said You repeatedly encouraged him to kill himself despite being aware of his “spiralling depression.”

The pair exchanged 75,000 text messages in the two months before Urtula took his own life, with You telling him “go die” and “go kill yourself,” prosecutors said.

You has returned to her native South Korea but will be extradited to the US if she doesn’t voluntarily return to face the charges, Rollins said.


The District Attorney added: “This case is a tragedy but it’s just one example of a systemic epidemic [of domestic violence].

“Domestic violence may not look the same [in every instance] but it is always about power and control.”

Urtula, of Cedar Grove, New Jersey, jumped to his death from the Renaissance parking garage in Boston on May 20.

It was the same day he was supposed to graduate with a biology degree.

You allegedly isolated her boyfriend from his family and friends and tracked his location on her phone.

Chillingly, You was present at the parking garage when Urtula leaped to his death, Rollins said.


Court documents compiled by the grand jury that charged You claimed she was “wanton and reckless”, according to the Boston Globe.

She created “life-threatening conditions for Mr Urtula that she had a legal duty to alleviate,” they added.

The case echoes “suicide text” girlfriend Michelle Carter, the Massachusetts woman convicted of urging her boyfriend to kill himself in July 2014.

According to the Boston Herald, You sent Urtula, 22, more than 780 “manipulative and threatening” texts each day in the months leading up to his death.

The suspect also used threats of self-harm to control her boyfriend and manipulate him, it’s claimed.


Urtula killed himself just two hours before he was supposed to walk in his graduation ceremony.

“His family never got to do so,” Rollins said on Monday.

His girlfriend was studying economics and was scheduled to graduate in May 2020 but withdrew from classes in August, three months after Urtula died.

Urtula was remembered as a “gifted student” and was involved in many groups, including the Phillippine Society of Boston College.

He had been working as a researcher in a New York hospital and according to his LinkedIn page.

Urtula also worked as a researcher at a women’s hospital in Boston in the haematology department.

Rollins told reporters domestic violence “does not discriminate” — noting it affected people regardless of their race, sexual orientation or age.

“Domestic violence may not always looked the same, but it is always about power and control,” she added.

Parts of this article originally appeared on the New York Post

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